I knew that motherhood and matrescence would change me. I just didn't know how much. I realise now that I had to go through my ground-level-identity-crisis to birth my truth, rise towards my identity-creation, continue to grow and trust that this is all happening for a reason. 'Life is not about finding yourself, it is about creating yourself' - George Bernard Shaw.
Like so many mamas before me and with me, I have learned to mother myself in order to have energy to stay centered and connected with my family. Gabby Bernstein once said she had to learn how to mother herself before becoming a mother. For me, I learned how to mother myself after nine years of mothering my three beautiful kids (my teachers).
Motherhood for me has taught me to let go of the old stories that didn't serve me. To stop being so hard on myself and let go of some high expectations. To break free from the fixed mindset of what I should be doing and where I should be...which then helped me to build sacred boundaries around what I actually need in order for my family to thrive.
Having a creative approach to parenting has helped me to connect with my kids and find meaning in motherhood; with this blog, a book (Arya's Flying Dreams) and a deep desire for wellness (www.mydoterra.com/creativemama). Thank you Amy Taylor Kabbaz for your divine purpose and for honouring mamas like me in your inspiring podcast (Uncovering the Real You with Nagma Dawn) :
"Motherhood comes with a lot of expectations, both spoken and unspoken. Passed down from generation to generation, we inherent so many unconscious beliefs around what it means to be a good mother and woman. Matrescence, if honoured correctly, can change that.
Matrescence is an invitation to examine not only who you used to be, but who you are becoming. It’s a chance to look at your lineage, and decide how you want to create your future.
It’s the time in your life when you get to look at who you were, and who you want to be.
Nagma Dawn is a mama of three who walked into one of my workshops a number of years ago with a tiny baby in her arms, and an open heart. She wanted to know more. She wanted to understand who she was now. She felt the stirrings of something within her – a desire to step back from the corporate career she’d been pursuing – but she wasn’t sure what it was… or if she could do it.
In this episode, Nagma shares her story of finding herself through creativity and courage. It will inspire you to look within at your own stories and expectations, and be ready to explore who might be there underneath all of those expectations."
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